By Josh Givens
January 8, 2014
It was love at first sight. Once she put on her glasses.
This is my love story.
One of the best things I ever did was take this girl on a date. She was cute, and pretty easy to talk to. She was finishing up school and seemed to know where she was going. We had dinner, and went and saw some bands play. We talked for a few hours, said goodnight, and I wondered what was going to happen next. Wait a minute… Did you think I was talking about my wife? Oh, no no. I better rewind, and start this from the beginning.
I used to work at this job with this girl who I became pretty decent friends with. One day, kind of out of the blue, she said, “You know, I’ve got this single friend.”
I responded with, “Oh yeah?”
So she goes on to tell me about this great sounding lady who was smart and pretty, and she told me her name was Angel. I say, “Yeah I remember her from middle school.” Needless to say I was intrigued.
Then she uttered the words, “The only thing is she has kids.”
So I responded with, “No thanks.”
I had been down that road just a little, and didn’t think I was ready for that. Some time goes by and I run into my work friend, and guess who’s with her. So with completely zero game, and zero confidence, I say “You’re Angel, right?”
She said “Yeah,” and that was about it.
Even though I had reservations, I still found this girl to be interesting. So I did what any fine young gentleman would do, and looked her up on Facebook. Turns out we lived only about a block from each other, and began to see each other almost daily. We would just watch movies and talk. No really, that’s all we did. I knew after a while we were a good fit but all she would give me was the friend card. I courted her for a few months with not much progress.
So one day I got a message from a girl that I had asked out a few months before. She sent me a text message that said, “I’m ready for that date now.” That’s the way life works. I finally felt like I was getting somewhere with Angel and this other lady steps back in. I could feel Angel was starting to crack, or at least I told myself she was. Still though, she was playing the friend card, so I agreed to the date with the other girl.
So here I am on a date with a very nice girl, and at the same time falling in love with the girl from down the block. Angel told me the day after the date that she stayed up as long as she could waiting to hear from me. She was very jealous, which made me very happy. A few days later she broke, and we became a couple.
Now we’ve been together four years next month, married for three months and have four children. We couldn’t be happier. We truly were made for each other.
We are all so stubborn. We are all so afraid of change — afraid of something out of the ordinary, or outside the box. We always think we know what we’re doing, where we’re going. We always think we know what’s best.
I was so sure, at first, she was not what I wanted. Just as she was so sure she wasn’t ready to dive back in. Little did we know we were exactly what we needed. Life is so full of doubt and questions, so full of excitement and wonder. Sometimes we get on this track that we’re comfortable with and nothing is going to knock us off of. Until fate comes and hits us head on. So maybe the next time you’re so sure of where you’re going, keep an open mind. Try to remember that sometimes what you want, isn’t exactly what you need.
Josh Givens is a Somerset resident who works for Goodwill as a janitor at the Ohio Department of Agriculture in Reynoldsburg. He also is an administrator of a Facebook group called, “There’s still some good left,” located at Facebook.com/mythoughtsinorbit. He wants to live an awesome life. He has four kids and an amazing wife and also can be found on Twitter @mythoughtsinorb. Givens also writes a column for The Logan Daily News.